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A recent fuck buddy ended things with me because, as he put it, I “play around a lot,” and he’s worried about bringing an STI home to his husband. From what I understand, they’re in an open relationship, so I’m confused about why my sex life suddenly feels like the problem.
My boyfriend and I have recently been talking about the possibility of opening up our relationship. Around the same time, I ended up having sex with someone else and I was paid for it.
My boss keeps making little gay jokes here and there. Nothing super offensive or anything, but I really don’t like it, but I also feel like we’re living in really weird times and I don’t want to make it awkward or worse end up on his bad side and get fired. What should I do?
My husband and I recently had a three-way that started off incredibly hot.
I have a good job, I stay in shape, I’m active, I have a good circle of friends, I don’t think I’m ugly, but I get dumped a lot. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, but I’ve been through all the apps and I feel so depressed. Am I ever going to find my person? I have gone through so many first dates, one-night stands and being ghosted, and it’s exhausting.
I think that my husband has internalized homophobia, but I don’t really know what to do about it.
I met this guy, and we have been hooking up for a while.
If my boyfriend doesn’t make me cum, should I stay with him?
I’m a gay man. I have been out since my early 20s.
Hi John, what advice would you give to meet friends? I’ve never been so lonely in my life. Depression is setting in. Thank you, John, for any help you can provide.
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