For the past three years or so, I’ve been living out a surgical saga. Several procedures, two different states, and many changes: Some subtle and unnoticeable, others, hard to miss (a nod to my treasured D cups, and the brilliant surgeon who placed them).

The Trump administration is trying to take the world back, not just to the Dark Ages when people were tortured to death for their beliefs, but to the Stone Age when Neanderthals with the heaviest clubs held the most power. Neanderthals commandeered fecund hunting grounds from weaker neighbors because they could. But when they came up against more organized, ordered, and civilized Homo Sapiens, they became extinct.

“If you ever doubt that you have people that love you, here’s proof.”

In tragedy and grief, sometimes the smallest details sear themselves in our minds. I can’t stop thinking about Renee Good’s knit cap.