I have always lived my life unapologetically; first "Gay & Proud," and then, "Trans & Proud." I am still proud, but now I am more afraid than ever. Trans rights are under unprecedented attack, as lawmakers push policies that specifically target us. I wonder why my, or our, existence provokes such fear and hostility.

I might have an answer: are others afraid of the fact that we challenge the status quo? We actually have the audacity to stand up for ourselves, to say, “This isn’t working for me,” and to actively change our circumstances. Most of society, even when deeply unhappy, remain complacent, trapped in bad marriages, unfulfilling jobs, or familial obligations they never chose yet feel obligated to maintain. The courage it takes to be transgender — to literally move mountains — is both inspiring and unsettling to those who have never dared to do the same.

I was listening to a podcast where women discussed what they did for fun. One woman shared that she enjoys watching her boyfriend play video games. What? Has she convinced herself that settling is easier than seeking fulfillment? This reminded me of societal expectations imposed upon us all. However, Trans folx refuse to conform to these norms, often at great personal cost. We are willing to risk family rejection, friendships, job security, and even personal safety to live authentically. That kind of courage is revolutionary — and obviously, to some, deeply unnerving.

For me, authenticity was never optional. I had to be me, despite standing over six feet tall and weighing over 300 pounds — a frame that society would never associate with an “ideal” woman. Yet, I refused to let societal definitions dictate my identity. I chose to live authentically, even when it meant defying the world’s expectations of what a woman “should” be.

Misty Eyez is a dynamic keynote speaker, educator, and fierce advocate for the LGBTQ+ inclusion, blending wisdom with wit. From the spotlight to the classroom, she transforms hearts and minds with authenticity, humor, and unapologetic truth.