Queerly Beloved

Queerly Beloved is an expertly curated column dedicated to the world of LGBTQ sex, intimacy and relationships that provides education, insights and actionable tips for the reader to enhance their pleasure journey. This column from Kelly Ghweinem, LCSW, will answer questions and provide advice to readers to deepen intimate connections, elevate pleasurable experiences, and empower people. Ghweinem is an established queer-affirming therapist and business owner who champions the LGBTQ+ community through activism and advocacy utilizing a queer, feminist, anti-racist lens. A University at Buffalo graduate, Kelly came to Fort Lauderdale from Manhattan in 2022.

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I've been in a relationship with my partner for about two years. We're both part of the LGBTQ community – I identify as non-binary, and my partner is transgender. Our relationship started off wonderfully, full of understanding and mutual respect. However, lately, I've been feeling a bit disconnected from him, especially when it comes to understanding each other's evolving identities and needs.

As co-owners of a boutique, my partner and I find the holiday season overwhelmingly busy. We're passionate about our business, but the increased workload takes a toll on the time we have for each other, often leaving us feeling more like business partners than life partners. How can we balance the seasonal rush with maintaining the intimacy and connection in our relationship?

I recently started dating someone new and I am feeling a bit of anxiety in the bedroom. I am super attracted to this guy and I am really turned on but when it comes to the moment, I can’t stay hard and sometimes it takes a little bit of time to get hard. I keep telling my cock to get hard but that doesn’t work and then I feel so full of shame and embarrassed.

My spouse and I have been together for 10 years. It started long distance and then in year five we moved in together. Over the last five years we have had a recurring argument about the type and frequency of sex. I feel my partner doesnt want to have sex with me. Does my partner not find me attractive?

My partner asked me to open our relationship after we have been in a committed monogamous relationship for the last six years. I am seriously considering it but I feel a bit lost in how we can do this without us damaging our trust and intimacy. How can we navigate this relationship change? 

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