I Need to Slow Down. Help! | Advice

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I’m 46, and I have been living in South Florida since my 20s.

I have always appreciated the fast pace and all there is to do, but lately as I have gotten older, I feel like I am on a hamster wheel that I can’t get off. I’m constantly exhausted and tired. I can’t get my feet under me. My career takes up a lot of time and add in the commute and I feel like I don’t have any time at all. I’m out of shape and can’t find time for the gym and I feel like I’m spinning my wheels in life. How can I get some calm and forward direction in my life?

Dear Burned Out,

The things you’re describing sound like burn out. Being in a vibrant city is wonderful, but also it can be challenging to balance work and life demands. It can feel like you’re trapped with no way out, but you can reset and find the balance you’re seeking. Burnout grows out of lack of self-care. When you don’t focus on your body and mind, you’re not allowing your system any downtime. Putting yourself first and making choices that will allow you to have a reset in your life can feel selfish but choosing yourself is the only way to cure your burnout. Nothing will change until you invest in your wellbeing. To make change, you must do something different and that takes work on your part. Saying no to social engagements or not taking on that extra work in the office can be difficult, but you must prioritize you. A reset for me was holding myself accountable and being disciplined in my daily life. Your sleep schedule is a great place to start looking for your path to reset. Shut off Netflix at a reasonable hour and get some sleep. Your mind and body need time to rest outside the glowing light of televisions and TikTok. Having a disciplined schedule and a reset in diet will help you feel more in control of your busy life. Clean up your diet, get some rest and once you’ve allowed yourself time to settle, you’ll see the path to your reset will be right there waiting.

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John Porter is an entrepreneur and founding partner at Oasis Asset Management. He has served as a political organizer and strategist within the Democratic Party, as well as serving as an executive board member for the Miami Yacht Club.

The advice offered in this column is intended for informational purposes only. Use of this column is not intended to replace or substitute any financial, medical, legal, or other professional advice.


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